Many times we have to go as a companion, and it is more than likely that we will end up in a rich treat. High standing celebrations are different and therefore have different rules that you should know if you do not want to sing.
How to put the napkin, what to do if you are hungry or how to use the cutlery are some of the nine points that we discuss below, based on the advice of protocol experts William Hanson (he has more than ten years of experience in matters label), who has spoken to ‘ Business Insider ‘; Timothy Hollingsworth (chef and owner of the famous New York restaurant ‘Otium’; Sur Lucero, prestigious sommelier and Julia Esteve-Boyd (protocol expert), who chatted months ago with the same medium ; and Kitty Jay (waitress for rich dinners) ), who spoke for ‘ Mashed ‘.
In addition to learning the rules by heart, the most important thing is that you feel relaxed, or at least it seems that you are. If you are in tension, you will be and others will see you uncomfortable, and you will start to get nervous and make mistakes. So, you know, enjoy the food and learn this list. You will be one more rich man, at least for a while.
Rules you have to follow while While Dining at Restaurants
1) Do not arrive early or too late
“I think a lot of people, especially millennials , have no idea when to arrive and when to leave a dinner,” says Hanson. “If the invitation says that dinner starts at 7:30 pm, it does not mean that you are already eating at that time. Therefore, do not arrive at 7:00 pm. Your host will not even be dressed yet,” he adds.
Be careful, Hanson does not recommend arriving at 7:30 p.m. It is polite to appear 10-15 minutes late . “Those who do not understand why this is important are those who have never organized a dinner,” he points out. Important: if you are going to arrive 15-20 minutes late, you need to call the host so that they do not start to panic and know that you are going.
2) break the bread
It usually happens to all of us. We sit at a table and we don’t really know what to do with the piece of bread next to us. Do I cut it by hand? Shall I take the knife? I don’t touch it? Hanson is clear: you should never break bread with a cutlery, much less spread half with butter or put oil. “This is very from the Middle Ages,” he says.
Attentive: cut a small piece and then, if you want to spread something, apply it to that small little piece that you have in your hand.
3) Eat to the rhythm of others
A good host, or rather your kitchen staff , will take out the dishes at the right time, not before the previous one has been finished. In this type of dinner, it is considered rude that everyone at the table asks for a different number of dishes, so you must adapt to what most want or what the host has. And, very importantly, you have to know that finishing long before or after the rest is not well seen either. Eat at the same rate as others.
4) Use the cutlery well
In the most formal dinners all the cutlery is put at once, and then, of course, the doubts arise: what do I start with? What the hell is this? All those little forks, spoons, and more can make you feel like a fish out of water. Each utensil, no matter how small, has its purpose. The general rule is to use them from the outside in .
European tradition states that, for example, a steak is cut as it is eaten, always with the knife and fork in hand. Also, the cutlery has its own visual language: in the shape of a triangle it means pause; cross, next dish; parallel with the handle to the left side, excellent; and in parallel with the handle at the bottom, finished plate.
5) Use the napkin well
Do not immediately unfold the napkin when sitting at the table, unless the staff is already taking out the food . The largest napkins are folded in two, with the fold toward you, while the smaller napkins are unfolded.
Record this on fire: never, never ever, put the napkin around your shirt collar. Not well seen.
Once dinner is over, you should put the cloth on your left where the bread plate was.
6) Look well dressed
High-end restaurants were traditionally a place where the ‘dress code’ (the generally unwritten norm for how you should dress) played a key role. However, either due to the economic crisis (which also affects the sector) or due to the evolution of fashion, the compulsory nature of the suit, tie and dress has been relaxing.
In these cases, it is best to find the fixed point , but always keeping your style. Common sense tells us that for a rich dinner we would not wear shorts, T-shirts, sneakers or caps.
7) Never ask for more food or drink
You should offer the people with you more drink if you want to serve yourself. You should never refill your glass without asking others. It is rude. A general rule of thumb is to see if the jug or bottle of wine is left on the table. If so, it is a sign from the host that the guests are free to serve themselves , in which case you can fill your glass whenever you want.
If the bottle of wine is at one end of the table, it means that the host is in charge of serving you, so it will be him or the service personnel who will do this work. If this is your case, you should not order more wine directly. Hopefully they will take care of refilling the glasses when appropriate.
8) never get up to go to the toilet
The bladders should be emptied before meal and not during, so make sure you don’t overload yourself with liquids of any variety during dinner. You should never get up between the dishes, nor before the dessert arrives. In a rich dinner one can leave his place as long as it is all over or move to another room.
9) If you have doubts, copy the others
There are all the tips that are, but the tips are not all that are. For this reason, it is important that, when in doubt, you observe the rest of the diners. Look at what they do or how they behave and simply imitate them. And if they ever serve you something you don’t know how to eat, the same, look at the others and copy them .